In this sohbet, Sheikh Bahauddin Efendi and Ayberk Efendi invite us to reflect on ego, identity and the humble surrender at the heart of the Sufi path. Their conversation circles around a simple, paradoxical teaching: “Hiç olmaya bak” – try not to be.
It opens with a repeated affirmation, “I am not a sheikh, I am not a scholar; I am no one.” By saying again and again that they are “no one,” the speakers show how clinging to titles or prestige only strengthens the lower self (nafs), the nafs al-ammāra that insists on being recognised, praised or feared.
Sheikh Bahauddin Efendi points out that when we identify ourselves as “the teacher,” “the seeker” or even “the disciple,” we put a subtle barrier between our heart and the Divine Presence. Ayberk Efendi adds that this is not only an intellectual error but a lived obstacle that makes us chase outer validation, whether scholarly reputation, social status or material comfort.
“Don’t try to be” is therefore not a call to passivity. It is an invitation to let go of the effort of self-making, so that the divine spark within can shine through. When the mind stops building an egoic identity, a spacious silence opens in which sincere worship, zikr and love can grow.
Both teachers stress that humility is a continual practice, and suggest simple steps:
- Begin each prayer or meditation with the affirmation “I am no one except You.”
- Notice when pride arises, in showing knowledge or defending an opinion, and gently return to the remembrance of Allah.
- Serve without expectation.
The sohbet closes with a duʿā: “May the blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad, and may we find the courage to dissolve the illusion of self.”
If you feel called to explore this path more deeply, the Royal Ottoman Society holds regular live meetings where Bayʿah can be taken and guided practice is available. Learn more on our Live meetings page.
