In this warm and concise sohbet the gathering was welcomed with “Assalamu alaikum,” and Sheikh Mehmed Efendi began by reminding us that the Tariqa—the Sufi path—is built on two pillars: heartfelt conversation (sohbet) and the inner connection of the heart (Hatna Hadithan). From there he turned to a question that touches every family: why were we created, and how should we guide our children?
Why We Were Created
Sheikh Mehmed Efendi explained that Allah created us to serve, not merely to earn money. He emphasized that worldly wealth loses all meaning at the moment of death; even a grave filled with gold cannot benefit a soul after it has passed. Material earnings may be used for good deeds while we are alive, but they cannot accompany us into the Hereafter. This reminder is especially relevant for many members who have migrated from Turkey seeking financial stability. The true purpose, he said, lies in dedicating ourselves to service and spiritual growth rather than accumulating riches.
The Value of Opening a Heart
The sohbet repeatedly highlighted that opening one heart is worth more than possessing an entire world. Sheikh Mehmed Efendi illustrated this with vivid repetition: even if the whole universe were granted to us, its value would be eclipsed by the simple act of awakening another person’s heart to divine love. This inner transformation cannot be bought, nor can it be achieved through alcohol, drugs, or any external means. It is a unique “taste” that only the generosity of the heart can provide.
Guiding Children with Love
Turning his attention to families, Sheikh Mehmed Efendi stressed that children must be led to prayer and good conduct with kindness, never with harshness or violence. He described how older generations would lovingly give gifts and even modest financial support to encourage fasting and devotion in the younger ones. Such gestures create an environment where children feel valued and are motivated to pursue spiritual practices of their own accord.
The Sheikh’s counsel is clear: nurture children through love, generosity, and exemplary behavior; let them see service as a path to fulfillment rather than material gain. In doing so, we help open hearts—both theirs and our own—and fulfill the purpose for which we were created.
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