The gathering opened with “Assalamu alaikum”, and Sheikh Mehmed Efendi began by reminding us that the Tariqa, the Sufi path, rests on two pillars: sohbet (spiritual conversation) and the inner connection of the heart (Hatna Hadithan). From there he turned to a question that concerns every family: why were we created, and how should we guide our children?
Why We Were Created
Sheikh Mehmed Efendi explained that Allah created us to serve, not merely to earn money. Worldly wealth loses all meaning at the moment of death; even a grave filled with gold cannot benefit the soul. Money can be used for good deeds while we are alive, but it cannot accompany us into the Hereafter. This reminder is especially relevant for the many members who came from Turkey in search of financial security. Our true purpose lies in service and spiritual growth, not in accumulating riches.
The Value of Opening a Heart
Opening one heart, he said, is worth more than possessing the whole world. Even if the entire universe were given to us, its value would not match the simple act of awakening another person’s heart to divine love. This cannot be bought, nor reached through alcohol, drugs or any other outward means. It is a unique “taste” that only the generosity of the heart can give.
Guiding Children with Love
Turning to families, Sheikh Mehmed Efendi stressed that children must be led to prayer and good conduct with kindness, never with harshness or violence. He described how the older generation lovingly gave gifts and even small sums of money to encourage the young to fast and pray. Such gestures help children feel valued and motivate them to take up spiritual practice of their own accord.
His counsel is clear: nurture children through love, generosity and good example, and let them see service as a path to fulfilment rather than to material gain. In this way we open hearts – theirs and our own – and fulfil the purpose for which we were created.
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